The final illness and death of Pope Francis this past spring reintroduced a number of questions that have arisen during modern papacies. Specifically, these often deal with a pope’s ability to carry on his ministry in the face of advanced age and sickness. But such concerns are not limited to the pope. Perhaps a more useful area of exploration, especially for those in their 50s, 60s and beyond, is considering our own thoughts and plans for aging.

How do you view your own aging process and what you want to do with your life as you grow older?

There is no one template for aging. Aging is marked by diversity, not uniformity. Getting older has challenges, but it also has opportunities. Unlike the pope, whose circumstances are restricted by his office, most of us have the freedom to consider how we might want to spend our time as we progress from late middle age to old age.

That freedom is relative and, for many, a privilege that comes because of financial security and good health. For those who are poor, who have chronic or life-limiting illnesses or have extraordinary family demands, getting older may mean just trying to face each day.

Spiritual planning

At the beginning of the Spiritual Exercises, Ignatius’ guide for retreatants seeking to find God’s will for them and conform their lives to that will, he puts forth a brief description as a basis for what follows. A central point of this “Principle and Foundation” is that the events of our lives, good and bad, long life or short, are means to the end of finding God and achieving our destiny of eternal life in love with the God who created us. To attain this end for which we have been created, Ignatius advises: “on our part we ought not to seek health rather than sickness, wealth rather than poverty, honor rather than dishonor, a long life rather than a short one…we ought to desire and choose only that which is more conducive to the end for which we are created.”

Individuals are now routinely living into their 80s and beyond, and it is increasingly common to meet people who are in their 90s or even over 100 years old. It appears that God is providing many with “a long life rather than short one” (via the work of public hygiene, better nutrition and more effective treatments for illnesses). This raises the question of what God might be offering us with these added years: How are we to use these years in ways that are “more conducive to the end for which we were created”?

Many Americans wisely spend a lot of time doing financial planning and considering various options for their future as they grow older. But when you are planning for your future, have you ever considered a spiritual retirement plan? In line with Ignatius, might it be that these extended years are God’s gift, calling you to a future with new possibilities to deepen your relationship and encounter God in ways that may not have been possible in the busyness of the earlier portions of your life?

My suggestion is that prudent planning for aging requires a spiritual dimension—and attending to these added years as a gift to come closer to God. We can choose to ignore our aging and simply try to stay put in our jobs and habits. This could be a result of fearing change, having mistaken ideas about our irreplaceability or avoiding the future. We may only focus on the aspects of aging that are presented favorably in the media: tennis, golf, travel and a life of leisure and personal enjoyment. We may ignore that, inevitably, aging will end and bring us before God.

There is nothing wrong with tennis, golf, travel and leisure. But what might God be offering you to discover rather than lots of activities and recreation?

The gift of added years